::My kind of stress is nvr happy so y did i ever think of this name :P haha anyway im just gona bitch bout my week so far so just bear with me :P haha. This week has been so mentally exhausting for me, with tuition, extra class, presentations, hws, tests n just everything else in between.
Well lets start on monday, i prepared myself for the worst today as i was expecting a v v v v v tough and i was right,but just totally unprepared. The day started of wif chemistry,which has become increasingly boring as each lessons passes by each mth, its lik u wan2 sleep but dun dare to unless u dun mind getting scolded by a big scary and a lil bau :P teacher (this is to remain confidential and no word of this is allowed to b spread to any teachers who so ever or else i will b killed and my spirit will haunt who ever mentions anything for the rest of ur sinful life :P) haha so we started of the day by doing exercises on the rate equation or wat so ever,Kc kah?? hantam lah. Other subjects then soon followed, in order, phys bio then gp. Phys is really just a blur for me coz i really just dun get anything :P seriously haha. Bio we had to copy lik tons of notes as we arent given any,how sad huh? ms on budget n has no $ for papers -.-"" however, they still cn distribute notices bout sports day n paying for watever crap stuff they want us to pay. In gp class,we were told to find and play songs,tat i think was the best part of my day coz we get to bring our phones to school and we r nt goin to get caught haha :P n the whole lesson is bout music,how cool is tat!!
So lik i said,tat was perhaps the high light of my day. After lunch,we had bio practical. We were doin cell division so we were going to c some slides of cells n draw wat we c,un fortunately..... my unlucky hands has yet again chosen a dumb stupid talor microscope,tats lik the 3rd time nw? hai -.-" i hope tat doesnt happen during a real test,tat would really suck. So i had to share microscope with melly. On a typical monday,i would hav gone home n showered n relaxed a bit b4 i get started on my hw or watever, but..... nt today. I had chem tuition from 3 to 6 pm terus go from school -.-"" lik WTH!!! i cant even tahan for 2 hrs of chem in school oledi,how m i goin to tahan 3 hrs!!!??? Well so after bio prac,me n rolly went to chem tuition,he followed me n was freakin scared coz he havent finish the hw tat was given to him haha,he was panicking all the way up the stairs :P haha which was so funny to watch :P. So we stayed at tuition from around 2 45- 6 pm doin chem the whole time,listening to teacher n doin exercise. Tat day was such a huge torture n really made my brain completely shut down after the 2nd hr of studying chem :P haha. The night hasnt even begun n i already wanted to sleep but... the story didnt end there.... just a few hrs earlier,we found out from teacher tat there was goin to b nt 1 but 2 maths test tomolo -.-""""" WALAO EH!!!!! so i spent the night reading through maths notes -.-""". Finally after tat,it was time to go to bed,FINALLY!!! i was both mentally n physically exhausted.
Tuesday then began. It started of with gp wit us trying to create sentences with word tat were given to us. Sounds simple enough rite? primary school kid also cn do la huh? haha nt when u hav a certain some1 as ur gp teacher,dun get me wrong,he s a gd teacher,however just sometimes just over demanding. After tat,ian saved us by reading out his sentence clearly n really expressing all the S es in his sentence :P haha tat was really funny to watch :P haha so after tat we watched this mv called ' FRIDA'. Its bout the life of a painter n according to sir,its lik 'the best mv ever' however we all dun seem to think so haha :P sorry sir. There were just way too many fast forwarding as there was just tooooo many umm inappropriate scenes :P haha. It was later followed by 3 periods of chemistry, phys then maths -.-""" hai seconds during tat day seemed lik hours and lik the day wouldnt end. Lunch came, the best time of the day :P but... the canteen ran out of fried chicken -.-""" so i had the beef for lunch,but... ian accidentally told the lady i wanted vege in my packet n the veges were all mixed with the beef and i had to finish it all up -.-"" thnx alot ian.
After lunch, we waited till 2pm to go to our class. Kwang, najib n mizan brought their laptops n so the canteen area turned into a mini RF haha where they were playing cs, 1 on 1 lol -.-"" how umm interesting :P. From the quote of kwang 'NO CHALLENGE!!! i dont wan2 win!!!' :P haha. So after tat we went to class to do the test,it was quite challenging i must admit. After extra class,i went back home,changed n terus go phys tuition,it was my 1st day n im already late -.-"". I didnt hav a place to sit wif the guys,so teacher told me to sit on the other table, outcast, NO!!! oh well haha so i did my work. Kwang they all told me to go sit wif them but i refused at 1st,then teacher told me to go coz need to explain some stuff n so i moved, i totally regretted moving as i was sitting directly inder the air cond -.-""" was frozen for 2hrs,nt even 3 hot cups of teh tarik could help me. I sat there doing my work,shivering for 2 hrs, from 4-6 doing phys -.-""" cn tat get any more pathetic? Well when i got back home,there was no time to waste. I ate my dinner n terus on the comp to do my bio presentation. It took me almost the whole night just to type it out n send it to sin yi. It was 11+ n i still havent sleep yet. C how rajin i m haha :P jk.
Wed came n it was ian s bday. God tons of gifts to buy -.-"""" aku kapih sudah wah!!! kasian ku ;( sob sob so anyway after tat restless night i was hoping to get a lil easier as i havent had any stress relieved from me since sunday. I was hoping today was going to hav maulud nabi or watever so i cn rest a bit,however, there was no maulud nabi or watever as it is actually nxt wk,KWANG U LIED haha :P. So after tat disappointment,it was back to studying, god i sound so lik nerd. The day didnt began gd at all as i found out from bokh tat liverpool drew 1-1 wif chelsea in the champions league,risse own goal in the final min -.-"""" TALOR!!!!! stupid berabis!!!!! i dun wan2 go into any detail of any of the subjects tat happen today as i was too sasak wif the result. Chem was boring again as usual,we drew graphs in the sauna class,how nice... The graphs look lik a painting after it was all done,with lines criss crossing each other n using diff colours n all, i sell u this painting $ 2.5 k :P lol for a dumb graph :P haha. Thank god there wasnt an extra class yest afternoon or else i would hav just slept throught he whole lesson. At night,i went online hoping sin yi would hav finished the bio presentation,unfortunately she didnt finish it till about 10+ but thank u v v much sin yi for doin all tat work.i had to sleep late again becoz of tat but nvm...
Today arrived n its Izzy s bday, HAPPY 17th BIRTHDAY ZY!!!!! thnx for the cake 2 hahaha :P so today was a much more relaxing day. It started off wif bio,i tot we were goin to do our presentations today but thank god we r the last group haha,lucky anwar picked lucky number 4 haha :P he got so high after tat that he kept screaming number 4 while waving the paper aroung in the air haha :P. The groups tat presented today were great,the work was nicely done n interesting,said teacher haha :P n the topics were 'types of cancer in brunei' and 'ovarian cancer'. The nxt 2 lessons soon followed w/o any teacher in the class haha :P free periods :P hehe. Cca suck though,we didnt get to watch ' Patch Adams' :( instead we got a racist n sexist guy giving a speech bout crap which i had no idea wat he was talking bout the whole time :P haha instead,me n the guys were just talking away doing our own thing. A guy behind us punched another guy's EHMMM n he was screaming at the back there in pain haha :P it was soooo funny. So after tat we had lunch n went for gp class,we did music again n me n melly tried to finish our presentation. After tat was chem prac. SASAK KU BERABIS chem prac ah. At 1st we were told of our mistakes etc for our last prac for about 45 mins,wanted to slp but din dare :P,it was tat boring. Prac totally suck 2,didnt know wat the hell we were doin n wat to write.After our hard work,teacher ask for our papers, i handed it lik 1 min late n he didnt wan2 accept it, HOKI AH!!! ******* man. Just nw was doing chem hw for tuition n it was alot to do, more than 20 ques of structured questions n about 50 mcqs to do by tomolo -.-""" n also i hav2 memorise the periodic table,how nice -.-""""""""""
Nw u c how stressed out i m? haizzzzzz anyway its late n im tired to the maxxxx. Tag ppl n goodnite
Thursday, April 24, 2008
HAPPY BIRTHDAY IAN!!!!!
Haha well as the title suggests,today is Ian's Birthday so HAPPY BIRTHDAY IAN!!!! and so this post is totally dedicated to him,hope u lik it ian. So i hav known ian since form 1 and since then,he is already a smart ass,he can b emo at times but most of the time he is either asking weird and personal n just out of the blue questions or doing so called 'magic' tricks or just making every1 laugh with his 'funny' jokes :P haha i miss those jokes btw. 1 eg of his jokes tat will always remain in my head,he come up with this on the spot btw haha, ' Why is the air soft? because of the air conditioner HAHAHA!!! :P' haha get it? air cond..... air conditioner.... conditioner... shampoo :P soft haha :P lol i really miss those days.
So here are just a few pics n movies of him just being crazy n totally 'Ian' haha :P enjoy
*ps these stuff r just so v v v random coz we were bored :P
Haha i remember this vedio very well coz i was the 1 who shot it :P sorry for the shaking btw coz it was just too funny :P,Adrian s aunt was outside watching him again :P so paiseh haha :P
Guess who? haha :P ian jahat kan :P jk ian
Just watch :P ian was bored n just took videos the whole time at tuition :P
Hot gay :P
haha ian was too hungry so he ate like this :P
This was at sherry's house last yr during CNY, Ronaldo version 2 :P
Ahh..... those wonderfully funny days are just the bomb.Ian is just a great guy with lots of friends n family surrounding him always,sorry ladies he s taken haha :P. I think w/o him in our class, gona b a boring yr just sitting there lik nerds looking at the white board in total silence :P haha. Happy 17th Birthday again n 17 only comes along once in ur life so enjoy it while it lasts (i think naveen wrote tat in the card :P) hehe peace out n hope u guys enjoy the videos :P
Friday, April 18, 2008
more bdays -.-"""
Hey every1 who is reading,i actually forgot some1 s bday,as if there arent enough bdays oledi this mth. Well its Izzy s bday on 24th april,haha happy nw zy? :P haha n Hui jin's bday on 13th april n oh yea Yeefah s bday is 18th april, WHICH IS TOMORROW!! haha so HAPPY BIRTHDAY FAH!!!!!! mooncake!!! haha oh yea,here s 1 of Yeefah s jokes the other day. That day we were at audi for speech competition, congrats ian btw for tat interesting n funny speech but sarah insulted ivy haha so tat has to b the winner :P haha sorry ian, anyway we were at audi, nav was sitting beside me n yeefah nxt to me on my right,yeefah purposely punch nav n act all innocent, then nav push me for no reason wat so ever coz he tot it was me,i was lik 'it wasnt me wah y u push me', then he look at yeefah wif tat angry face, then nav ask ' so who did it?' yeefah s reply 'Hu did :P' haha get it?? Who= Hu as in Hu yee fah :P haha lame i know :P haha
Oh yes,as i promised, here are more pics from tat day at capers at Melvin s party....
Ric just loves the camera n the camera just loves him haha
Kwang n Cody waiting for their food which was soooo superrr slowww
Kai was lik ' y everything so cheap 1 kan!!!' :P haha c how happy he is to c the price :P
who/hu fart :P haha,u c adrian pengsan oledi la :P hu y u fart?? :P haha jk
Chris nearly half dead by the time the food came haha :P jk
hantam take pics 1 haha :P
look at what happens when a pizza comes :P
c rolly,this is wat u get for eating 20 plates of pasta n 3 pizzas :P
it was lik a starving camp and every1 was fighting for food,this was just the starting,u should see when the coke came :P
this is wat happen to melvin after he saw the bill :P haha he was lik 'y sooo cheap 1,NOOO!!, no change for $5000 bill wa' :P haha
haha u cn just c cody s head popping up there :P
Group pic
Ahh....wat a great party... hehe ate lots n talk lots,nice nice nice hehe hope u guys had a good time n sorry melvin for tricking u haha :P sorry.
Oh yea btw forgot to mention,Ying finally barbeque the other day at marlene s party haha :P YAY!!! :P hahaha n the sausage n fishball was nice :P haha seriously,nt so swt but nothing is sweeter than u la haha (eric told me to say tat :P) haha :P
So today i went out wif sherry,cheah wen,ying n of course me...we went to excapade n it was full lik wat,met effie there,n sherry stole my chicken :P n i tried raw salmon :S tasteless la n sherry lied to me that he tried the salmon n dako, LIAR, sherry kau ni BAIE!!!! haha so after tat we went mall n it was raining as we walked there,did pretty much nothing haha except we bought ice cream (by we i mean me n ying coz sherry was broke n cw din want any :P haha) sorry sherry tat ur broke. We then went to arcade but since no food n drinks allowed so we sat at the food court n eat n talk,ok mostly ying n cw talked coz me n sherry were quite quiet then dono y,sherry emo ah!! y emo sherry???
So as i finished my last spoon of ice cream,we went into arcade,but... sherry so ngam had to go awwww,oh welll, we went in anyway n cw n ying played mario go carts (ying s pic so funny btw hahaha :P) n ying,1 tip for u,if ur at the edge oledi,ur suppose to turn haha :P. After that we walked downstairs n waited for our parents. Ying s n cw s parents were already waiting for them when we walked down.something funny happen between me n cw but i rather nt say haha :P haha. No pics were taken,cn u believe tat????? o.O haha im as surprised as u r haha :P. Well i met a few ppl from ms at mall just nw, Mr kok :P is tats how u spell his name haha, zaty n silah 2 hehe,thnx sils for accompanying me just nw hehe n its nice to c u 2 zaty :)
Today hasnt been a great day,overly emo today,dono y,so anyway ill just end this here for nw la. TAG PPL! haha :P peace guys
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
That is d ONLY photo I like from last thurs =P hahaha out of umm abt 10 mayb? I actually do lik d 1 with me n aaron only bt I thnk we werent close enuff so it doesnt look tat gd. lol, totally fussy! =D (So girl, u're NOT allow to post any other pics other tat that 1 n d 1 without me is fine =P hehehe)
Hmm..I thnk I learn a lot 2day.. 1. There's alwez a story bhind everythin... 2. Ignorance is bliss (at times) 3. Dun take things personally 4. Let go & u'll b much happier 5. Sumtimes, its btr nt 2 b serious at all
Duno if any1 wud undrstnd those bt yea..tats juz wat I tot n can apply to 2day at least. Its meant for me anyways =P
BARC was a total waste of time! But at least I haf easyway =D
Friday, April 11, 2008
WHY SO MANY BIRTHDAYS THIS MONTH 1 KAN!!???
Haha it always seems lik everytime a start a post,i always seem to apologise to every1 for nt posting often,sorry guys coz banyak test payah wah,i just had my stats test today n it was o...k... la boleh tahan,i was expecting permutation n combination to kill me or something,nt literally of course.Anyway this whole week including nxt monday is all tests la,so i wont b online for a while,study study study, btw chem n phys on tues was a real killer man mati ah!!!!
Ok ok ok enough bout tests,lik my title suggests,kenapa bulan ni ada banyak hari jadi kan?? banyak present to beli ah,mati ku,ok make it kapih ku ( to kwang,sell 7 cars cant get back the money wah :P haha). Anyway ill list all the birthday ppl this mth la,just in case i forget to wish,everything is all here oledi haha :P . Well the 1st bday of this mth goes out to Najib-pungi master :P haha whose bday is on 3rd april, 2nd bday goes out to Marlene,great party btw hehe whose bday is on 5th april (if im nt mistaken hahaha :P), 3rd bday goes out to Azman (who i havent seen in days) whose bday is on 7th April ,4th bday goes out to Naveen ( who has converted to cina oledi btw haha :P) whose bday is today actually (10th april), 5th bday goes out to Melvin,great party again haha, whose bday is tomorrow (11th april, u n nav bros kah? :P jk), 6th bday of this month goes out to the poklen master Ian buibui Chan whose bday is on 23rd april and last but nt least Yeefah bday which falls on umm me no idea coz cck din tell me the date haha :P but anyway HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO NAVEEN TODAY and MELVIN for tomorrow haha :P n also HAPPY BELATED AND ADVANCE BIRTHDAY to every1 whose bday is this mth :) hope u have a great birthday and wish u all the best in everything.
Like i said b4,today is naveen s bday so here r some pics to remind us of the good old days hehe (sorry naveen,too tempting not to put this up haha)
Naveen getting creamed,literally haha :P
HAHA oh the good old days :P
Haha sorry Naveen!! :P too hard to resist haha those were the days,u should thank me for not putting the videos up :P haha n oh yea the push up 1 :P haha plan to put on youtube haha :P if every1 wants to c,mayb ill do tat haha :P 2million hits in 5 mins haha :P jk la,im nt tat bad. So anyway Nav happy bday again. Oh nt to forget Najib haha :P, here is a pic of u 2 haha :P
SOOO sayang i wasnt there tat time
Haha chubby benar kan si najib kan masa tu :P hehe n btw the vest he s wearing,kena koyak oleh naveen sudah haha coz too small for him haha :P n so najib cuba pakai hehe,good old days kan,bring back good memories.
So anyway,since there r sooooo many bdays this mth,there should b lots of parties as well right?? YES OF COURSE, well the 1st party is at Marlene s place. O.o wat a great party,girls,booze,gamble,singing,watch arsenal vs liverpool, what more could u ask for??? haha great party again (but urs still the bomb ric haha,peace bro) so here r just some of the pics i curi :P from peijin s blog n marlene s 2 so if u wan2 c the rest,go to their blogs n check out the rest of the pics k hehe, c so gd advertise u guys punya blog also :P haha
Haha sherwin wan2 delete this pic but lucky din hehe
watching arsenal vs liverpool
still watchin football :P
group pic,oh yea forgot ric cody n ck werent in this pic
Haha this is such a funny pic, Edmond kena laughed at by every1 coz cant c him in the pic n marlene s mom was speakin chinese so he couldnt understand a thing haha :P kasian ah
girls group pic
Ehseh superstars singing (cw n ck)
another group pic
Another group pic haha banyak jua :P
Yup u guessed it,another group pic haha :P
last pic haha :P
Hehe so there r just some of the pics,2 c the rest of the pics,go peijin or marlene s blogs n check it out for yourself,btw Arsenal and Liverpool drew tat night :( so sad,Liverpool could hav won it at the end though but voronin itu paloi :P sasak ku berabis butttttttt they did get their revenge yest haha in the champions league,4-2 baby WOOOOOOOOOO hahaha :P to all arsenal fans,eat ur hearts out,n btw arsene wenger or wanker or watever ur name is,is such a sore looser,its nt lik ur complaining is gona change the result or the fact that LIVERPOOL WON!!!! wooo haha :P just releasing some steam after this stressful week la.
So party no.1 down,party no.2 nw hehe n it was Melvin s turn to throw a killer gathering of pra u 1 cina gang + 1 melayu haha :P,hectic berabis ah, finding gift in 20 min :P n also cramped in the car wif sherwin n ian hahaha :P tapi fun berabis la hehe and as usual,here r just some pics,ill get the rest of the pics from melvin another day n ill post them up k so here it is...
group pic,without cody n ck,its lik their pics r so precious or something :P or their faces r worth 1 mil or something :P come on la,group pic to remember this day
The guys did this to ian s coke,simpan cili dalam haha :P,ian cakap nyaman haha jk :P
Oh yea,we went to capers btw,makan terlalu banyak ah till cant walk :P haha ok we did actually walk to Qlap mall after dinner, me khai rolly n kwangy, we walk around n found nothing interesting then we go try ice cream at fleur-de-lys hehe NYAMAN BERABIS AH haha :P then we just walk around some more,look at cd then i went back. Oh yea we were listening to shayne ward- breathless in seri Qlap mall as they were playing it,then kwang say he heard of a new artist,new hot n coming to a town near u,with his not new single, Kwang ward-breathfull haha :P get it get it?? :P shayne ward,kwang ward n breathless,breathful ha ha ha ha apakan :P haha :P oh yea here is another lame 1 sherwin said, izzy kali cakap,kau loser eh, sherry reply, i cant b a loser coz im sherWIN hahahahahahah :P lame berabis :P haha sorry sherry :P haha
so to end things off,here is a pic of the ice cream we bought from fleur-de-lys hehe :P i hope u dont drool after u see this haha :P
o.O ice cream.... ahh..... yogurt,choco,oreo n mint flavour.... ahhhhh NYAMAN :P
Oh yea b4 i end this post,here is a tip to all u gamblers who wan2 earn $,1 gd tip i hav for u if u wan2 earn is tat nvr play wif cw :P haha esp if its 21 and she s the dealer,just sit n watch while all the other player s $ just go bye bye :P n into her purse haha :P hey cw,sorry for giving away ur $ secret haha jk :P hey new profession for u,work in casino n rob every1 :P haha nt literally la,wif ur 'skills' :P haha when u become rich from ur 'robbing' remember i gave u this idea n we share ur earnings ah ;) haha :P n ying,i din put the pics up la haha :P wanted to but nahh nvm la hehe peijin n marlene blog oledi hav anyway haha :P n remember wat i told u bout singing haha :P no chinese tats it haha :P so guys enjoy reading n tag pls hehe :P ill blog again when i hav time,cya...
love season
Walao lik terus after holidays so many hook ups oledi,is there a love bug in the air or wat? i dono coz i din catch it haha so no hook ups for me hehe,bein single is great *every1 must b thinkin im lying right nw but seriously im nt,wats wrong wif bein single nw?*
So anyway after this wind blows off here is a list bout break ups from a document i received actually,from a friend,u know who u r :) hehe thnx for sending this so anyway here it is.....
note that this is from a male perspective, so i will be saying "her" a lot. please don't mistake this for being male only, it goes both ways. anyways, on with the guide.
The initial breakup there isn't a whole lot we can say here, for whatever reason, you've dumped your lady, or your lady has dumped you, or maybe you reached a mutual agreement that the relationship is over. what's important to note is how you take it when it happens. should you be the one getting dumped, don't throw a fit. don't argue with her decision, because when a girl has it in her mind to end the relationship, and actually brings it up to you, then she's going to go through with it no matter what you say or do. not to mention, if she doesn't want to be with you, then there is NO point in you staying. fuck her, right?
this is the time when it's important not to do or say anything crazy. the best way to deal with her or him is to just say "Ok", and be done with it. i feel it is always important to let them know how you feel, if possible. don't grovel at their feet, but rather just tell them how you feel. this is not for them, this is for you. you want everything to be on the table right now, because you are never going to speak to them again in this manner, and you do not want it eating at you for the next few weeks, those little things that you wished you would have said. sometimes i feel the best way to do this is a nice note or email, since they can't interrupt you and will undoubtedly read it. make sure at the end you say goodbye, and mean it.
The sever are you ready to do this? of course you're not, but it doesn't fucking matter, because you have to. i hope you made your point to him/her before now, because you're not going to get a chance to anymore.
don't think that you can do this halfass, or continue talking to them every now and then, or just be friends. we have all been through this and this is the best possible way, so don't argue it. just do it :nike:
first things first, round up all the pictures of you and her, round up all the notes, the cards, the gifts that you don't need, and store them. it doesn't matter where you store them, as long as they are in a place where you wont just stumble upon them one day. you're not going to remember who your ex is in two weeks, so you don't want to accidently look at a picture of you and her at some special moment in time and start crying. don't burn them or destroy them either, one day they will mean a lot to you, so keep them.
next, delete their numbers from your phone. write them on a piece of paper and put them away with your other things that you've stored. you don't want to remember the number, but you have it for the future incase you need it someday. cease contact with your ex's friends, all of them. if they are true, honest, mutual friends, then that is seriously thin ice. don't fret too much, you will probably lose your mutual friends, they will invariably take one side or the other, and it will rarely be in your favor. if you have to, explain to them why you wont be talking to them for a while, it's for your recovery.
lastly, internet things. block her names on all of your messengers, delete them out of your buddy lists, and don't ever look back. forget their friendster account, don't ever look at any of their profiles. these are landmines that will take your goddamn legs out from under you, so careful preparation here is key.
make sure NOTHING here is left, you want it to be a clean break, a clean sever. by this point he/she will be out of your life completely. i've found it helps to refuse to say her name, and make sure your friends and family know to call her your ex. "Dewi"(made up name) was your beautiful and wonderful girlfriend. your "ex" is the bitch that you are going to forget. the word "ex" wont bring up as much pain and memories as the person's actual name, believe me, this works.
Starting the process of recovery did you get your sobs in? you should have done that while you were severing. the time it takes you to sever completely is the only time you should give yourself to the pain. after that, put it out of your mind by ANY means necessary. you have to forget about this person because as they are no longer in your life, they are no longer important. you really shouldn't think about someone who doesn't exist, should you?
don't listen to anybody when they tell you not to forget, but to "learn" from it. you can learn in the future, when you can think about your ex without giving one shit about them.
try to do your best not to think at all about your ex. do NOT go over scenarios, plans to get back with them, or anything of that nature. do NOT think about what you did wrong, what they did wrong. none of that is important.
Learning to focus on yourself you are no longer a couple. you will no longer think as a couple. you have to focus on yourself, and what makes you happy. i find it best to think of all the things you can do to become a better person, and make a nice long list. work on every item on the list until you've finished each one. i guarantee when you have finished the list, you will have moved on.
do what makes YOU happy. feel free to indulge. buy yourself useless shit that you don't need but makes you incredibly happy. buy computer games, buy extravagent food, buy new clothes that make you look good.
next work on your self image. if you are overweight, FIX IT. go out and exercise, eat healthy, become comfortable with yourself. you can't be happy with yourself if you pig out every night on junk food, as good as it tastes, you'll only hate yourself afterwards. and the neat thing is, exercising will always make you feel good. on top of that, it will make you feel good about yourself. and in the end when it comes time to start dating again, you'll be back down to your fighting weight, which you had let go to shit when you became comfortable with your ex, fatty.
Keeping yourself busy find yourself a good hobby if you don't already have one. make sure it isn't a monotonous hobby either. you want something that passes the time, and you also want something that requires your FULL concentration, you don't want your mind to wander. some fun ideas are:
* Working on cars (if that's your thing) * Exercising/Working out * Computer games/programming * Musical instruments * COOKING!
a lot of these things will also extend your social circle. this is another important thing to do, you want as many friends as you can have, and you want to be out with them as much as possible. do not become a hermit. you need to be around people as much as humanly possible. make friends everywhere, and talk to them all the time. don't ever talk or whine about your ex, people get sick of that shit very quickly. oh and why WOULD you talk about your ex, you're not even supposed to be thinking about her, remember?
The most important thing there is one thing in all of this that is the absolute most important. you have to be happy with yourself, meaning, you have to be able to make yourself happy when you are single. it will take a long time for you to accomplish this, but you do NOT need to feel like you have to be with someone to make you happy. in fact, i'm going to say this, you are not allowed to settle down ever again until you are 100% happy being single. to the point where you don't give a shit if you ever met somebody again. this takes A LOT, so don't expect it to come right away. but eventually it will.
Something for you to try do you really want to be happy? do you really want to be over this girl or guy? here's what you need to do. ignore your heart and your emotions. for the next few months, operate by your brain's capacity ONLY. your brain is capable of logic, your emotions aren't. don't follow your heart, that's bullshit that will just get you hurt again. trust me, it is a lot harder at times to listen to logic and go by every bit of it, it hurts quite a bit. But do it, and stay at it, and you will become a better person for it. In a lot of cases, this means being a complete emotional hardass at times. to clear this up a bit, I will give you an example problem:
your cell phone rings. the number shown (not name you fucking fool, you better have deleted it already), is your ex's. what do you do?
in this case, your heart leaps and tells you "PICK IT UP". you pick up the phone, and your heart is racing, because your ex wants you back, right? 20% chance, MAYBE. most likely you have something of hers she wants back, she's found a new guy and wants to rub it in, or she just wants you to sob about how you miss her and stroke her ego. oh and if you do happen to get back together, she'll just cheat on you and fuck you over, if it didn't work the first time, it's not going to work the second, sorry pal.
but while the phone is ringing, logic tells you to not pick it up. this will be one the hardest things you can do. walk away from the phone. it's going to sting like hell. come back later, delete the voice message, don't listen to it. don't look at any of the texts. you will feel like utter shit, and it will hurt. this is called listening to logic. in the end you will be a lot better for it. things like this can send you into a relapse and you can lose valuable time that you've spent recovering.
Have you moved on? give yourself 4-6 months before asking yourself this. it takes a long time to completely move on. if your ex came and threw herself at you, would you take her back? and be 100% honest. If the answer is yes, then you haven't moved on. if you can't say no without a single second of hesitation and MEAN IT, then you haven't moved on.
you've moved on when you are completely happy being single, and you don't even give a shit about your ex anymore. at this point, ask yourself what you really want. if you'd like to start dating again, go right ahead! the world is your oyster, you've made it through, so pat yourself on the back.
so that concludes the guide. i'm not very good at organization, so if you guys want to give me any tips on how to make this look/flow better, please do. also please add any tips or suggestions you feel appropriate. we want to have a very good source on how to get over a breakup.
one last thing, take everything i've said here with a grain of salt, at any rate. thanks guys
So there it is,the break up document,sorry if u think this is a curse or watever but hey just putting it up nw so u guys/girls know wat to do if the time comes :P
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
guess wat? My tv WORKS AGAIN! =D hahah so its gd nw. Juz in time for my drama! Tata~
Uh oh...My tv went crazy =/ was watchin d 1st episode of 'To Grow With Love' which my sis recorded long long time ago. Halfway thru d drama d tv went off by itself! Lik juz automatically switch off. It wasnt unusual coz I've experience tat b4 bt it was suppose 2 work when i switch d tv bck on but it din! It went on then off. I on again then it went off again so its lik on off on off on off..acting all majal on me! sheesh~ so nw I cant watch my show 2nite! =/ at least not of d bigger screen. Glad I haf a few other tvs to survive with hehe
Totally in love with d drama's theme song right nw + of coz d drama. SO totally GD! not too mention d guy is HOT =D If u're interested, read on:
Synopsis:
Ho Mei Tin is an overweight daughter to a wealthy man in the Philippines. Worried for her daughter's future, Mei Tin's father searches for and finds what he believes to be an ideal life partner for her daughter. However, unable to feel anything for her husband-to-be, the idealistic Mei Tin runs off to Hong Kong. Life in Hong Kong is totally different from the life she left. People are more materialistic, and appearances are everything. Mei Tin's weight makes her the object of ridicule from Tai He especially, the owner of the store she will eventually work in during her time in Hong Kong.
Tai He is a successful designer and the owner of several chain stores selling his own design brand. A perfectionist, he feels that appearances are everything and anyone unable to take care of their own appearance cannot be trusted to take care of anything important.
Quarrels and misunderstandings are the norm between the two polar opposites, and Tai He made life a living hell for Mei Tin who could only shoulder them to keep the job she needs to pay for her living expenses in Hong Kong.
A strange turn of events brings the two together in the Philippines. An accident leaves Tai He with memory loss and Mei Tin, who has since returned to her father, turns out to be the one to shelter him. Still sore about her treatment at his hands in Hong Kong, she plays a prank on Tai He by convincing him that he is her boyfriend.
The memory-less Tai He however, stripped of the defensive shell he placed to protect himself, begins to show another side of him that is not all too different from Mei Tin. What started as a simple prank turns into real romance and Mei Tin begins to worry about how things will turn out when Tai He eventually regains his memory...